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Three paths. One foundation.
Trauma-informed therapy and executive coaching for the deeper work of healing the self, transforming relationships, and shaping the systems we influence.
- Safety
- Trust
- Power
- Choice
- Connection
- Agency
The context changes, but the human work beneath it remains connected: developing the capacity to stay present, choose freely, relate honestly, and hold power with care.
01 • Internal Authority
When the past is over, but your mind and body are still responding.
Trauma can continue through intrusive replay, rumination, shutdown, fear, shame, relationship triggers, and body responses that feel automatic. Therapy creates a structured way to understand what is happening, build enough safety to approach it, and support integration without forcing overwhelm.
Return to the three pathsStuck
A memory, belief, emotion, or body response continues to organize present-day reactions as though the experience is still happening.
Process
The experience is approached with preparation, pacing, and enough regulation for the brain and body to begin updating what remains unresolved.
Integrate
The past becomes something you can remember without it carrying the same authority over your present choices, identity, or relationships.
01 Trauma Therapy & EMDR Structured processing for memories and survival patterns that remain unresolved.
EMDR is a structured psychotherapy approach used to address distress associated with difficult or traumatic experiences. Treatment may include history-taking, preparation, target planning, bilateral stimulation, regulation support, reprocessing, and integration.
This work may support concerns such as:
- Intrusive replay, rumination, or persistent emotional activation
- Complex or developmental trauma and attachment injury
- Sexual trauma, betrayal, grief, or moral injury
- Fear responses that remain intense despite logical understanding
- High-functioning burnout, chronic responsibility, and emotional shutdown
- Relational triggers, self-doubt, shame, or difficulty trusting your own signals
02 FLASH An advanced adjunct that may offer a gentler way to begin when direct focus feels too activating.
The Flash Technique may be used when clinically appropriate to reduce initial disturbance connected to a distressing memory. Rather than remaining immersed in the most painful material, the client briefly identifies the target, shifts attention toward something engaging or positive, and follows short, structured prompts.
FLASH is selected according to clinical fit, readiness, and safety. It is not automatic and does not replace a complete trauma assessment.
03 EMDR Intensives Extended-format trauma therapy with more uninterrupted time for preparation, processing, and integration.
Intensives are private-pay treatment containers for clients who may benefit from more focused time than a standard weekly session allows. The appropriate format is selected through clinical assessment rather than by session length alone.
3-Hour Intensive
May fit a defined target such as a single incident, specific trigger loop, contained fear response, or focused relational pattern.
Investment: $6755-Hour Intensive
May fit linked targets or concerns that require more preparation, processing time, and regulation breaks in one day.
Investment: $1,1253-Day Intensive
May be considered for layered targets requiring preparation and integration across three structured five-hour days.
Investment: $3,375Readiness matters. Some complex presentations, significant dissociation, acute instability, or insufficient post-session support may be better served through a slower, ongoing format before an intensive is considered. Intensives are private pay and are not billed to insurance.
02 • Relational Authority
Connection without self-abandonment. Intimacy without performance.
Relationships often reveal the parts of ourselves that remain hidden when we are alone. Therapy can help adults, couples, and consensual relationship systems understand the patterns beneath intimacy, sexuality, attachment, conflict, shame, desire, power, and repair.
Return to the three pathsSex therapy specialty development: Jillian is an AASECT Member and is enrolled in Modern Sex Therapy Institutes’ AASECT CST pathway. Formal sexuality education is in progress. She does not represent herself as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist® unless and until that certification is awarded.
01 Sexual Trauma & Erotic Agency Healing shame and disconnection while reclaiming body, boundaries, voice, and choice.
Sexual trauma can affect far more than memory. It may shape body connection, trust, desire, intimacy, shame, dissociation, boundaries, and the ability to know or communicate what feels wanted.
- Sexual trauma processing and trauma memories affecting intimacy
- Shame, avoidance, fear, or disconnection from the body
- Rebuilding boundaries, self-trust, voice, and choice
- Intimacy after trauma and reconnecting with erotic agency
- EMDR when trauma memories continue to shape sexuality or relationships
02 Intimacy & Relationship Therapy Attachment, communication, desire, emotional closeness, rupture, and repair.
- Couples intimacy and sexual communication
- Desire differences, avoidance, or performance concerns
- Attachment patterns and recurring relational loops
- Boundaries, conflict, trust, betrayal, rupture, and repair
- Relational patterns involving shame, pursuit, withdrawal, or self-abandonment
Medical sexual concerns, sexual pain, hormonal factors, or other physiological contributors may require collaboration with a qualified medical provider.
03 Kink, BDSM & Consensual Power Exchange A nonjudgmental space for identity, communication, power, trust, consent, and relational meaning.
- Kink identity exploration and shame reduction
- Dominant, submissive, switch, and other role experiences
- Consent communication, negotiation, limits, and boundaries
- Safewords, stopping practices, aftercare, and emotional responses afterward
- Integrating kink with attachment, intimacy, and relationship functioning
Subspace is not automatically treated as dissociation. Dominance and submission are not automatically treated as trauma responses. Therapy assesses function, meaning, choice, context, and impact.
Scope: Therapy may include assessment, preparation, relational processing, and integration. It does not include physical scene facilitation, restraint, impact play, or other in-session kink activities.
04 CNM & Polyamory-Affirming Therapy Agreements, autonomy, jealousy, hierarchy, attachment, communication, and collective repair.
- Open relationships and polyamorous relationship systems
- Agreements, expectations, boundaries, and renegotiation
- Jealousy, attachment insecurity, comparison, or scarcity
- Hierarchy, gatekeeping, autonomy, and unspoken power
- Communication and repair across partners or relationship systems
High-conflict polycule systems or dynamics involving unclear coercion, safety concerns, or significant role complexity may require consultation, collaboration, or referral.
05 LGBTQIA+-Affirming Therapy Identity, relationships, sexuality, belonging, shame, authenticity, and family or cultural systems.
- Identity exploration and self-definition
- Relationships, intimacy, sexuality, and belonging
- Internalized shame, stigma, or family-system pressure
- Attachment and relational patterns shaped by marginalization
- Affirming support without requiring identity to become the problem
Gender-affirming specialty care beyond Jillian’s current training may involve collaboration or referral to an appropriately trained provider.
06 Safety, Scope & Collaboration Clear boundaries about what can be treated, what requires collaboration, and when referral is safer.
Consultation or collaboration may be needed for:
- Complex BDSM or high-conflict relationship-system dynamics
- Sexual dysfunction or pain requiring medical collaboration
- Gender-affirming specialty care beyond current training
- Concerns involving unclear coercive control or significant safety questions
Referral may be needed when there is:
- Active sexual coercion, intimate partner violence, or acute safety instability
- Forensic sexual concerns
- A need for specialized medical treatment without appropriate providers involved
- Pressure to participate in kink, CNM, or another structure without free agreement
Non-pathologizing position: Consensual kink and BDSM are not presumed to be symptoms of trauma or pathology. Therapy focuses on consent, coercion, authenticity, communication, relational functioning, identity, meaning, and each client’s stated goals.
03 • Collective Authority
For the person everyone else depends on.
Executive and leadership coaching is designed for leaders who carry decisions, uncertainty, people, outcomes, and the expectation that they remain composed. The work is not about learning to carry more. It is about holding responsibility without losing access to yourself, relationships, judgment, or humanity.
This work may be especially relevant for men and other leaders in high-responsibility roles who rarely have a private space where pressure, power, vulnerability, and relational impact can be examined without performance.
Coaching becomes especially valuable when the strengths that produced earlier success—accountability, urgency, expertise, directness, or high standards—have become overextended in a more complex role.
Return to the three pathsThe Weight of Responsibility
Decision fatigue, constant vigilance, carrying uncertainty, and being the person expected to regulate everyone else.
Authority & Impact
Examining not only how power is intended, but how it is experienced through tone, access, hierarchy, timing, decisions, and culture.
Presence Under Pressure
Building the capacity to remain grounded during scrutiny, vulnerability, conflict, feedback, ambiguity, and difficult decisions.
Doctoral Curriculum in Practice
Leader development. Leadership coaching. Leadership development.
Jillian’s Industrial–Organizational Psychology curriculum includes Leadership Coaching: Theories, Concepts, and Processes and Leadership and Leader Development. Together, they distinguish individual growth from coaching process and collective organizational capability.
Leader Development
Leadership identity, self-awareness, values, emotional regulation, communication, delegation, feedback, conflict, role transitions, and the wider behavioral range required by a more complex role.
Leadership Coaching
A confidential, goal-oriented process that may include contracting, sponsor alignment, assessment, 360-degree or stakeholder feedback, workplace experiments, accountability, and review of sustained change.
Leadership Development
Leadership pipelines, succession readiness, change leadership, culture stewardship, inclusion, psychological safety, employee voice, and alignment across talent and organizational systems.
From Beneath the Surface to Intentional Action
Reflection becomes useful when it changes what happens at work.
The engagement is relational, contextual, psychologically informed, and evidence-guided. A CLEAR-informed session flow keeps the work purposeful while the wider I-O lens holds role, culture, stakeholders, power, and organizational conditions in view.
Contract
Clarify purpose, roles, privacy, sponsor boundaries, fit, and the outcomes the client wants to pursue.
Listen
Attend to language, silence, values, emotion, repeated patterns, and what may not yet be fully articulated.
Explore
Examine assumptions, intention versus impact, readiness, stakeholder dynamics, and the conditions surrounding the concern.
Experiment
Translate insight into one observable workplace behavior, conversation, decision, or leadership practice to test in context.
Review
Use reflection, evidence, feedback, and accountability to refine the working hypothesis and sustain what is effective.
The client retains ownership of meaning and decisions. Models and data are used as flexible maps rather than scripts or verdicts.
Credential Development Board Certified Coach (BCC) Credential in Progress
Jillian is actively developing toward the Board Certified Coach credential and is not yet a Board Certified Coach. Her preparation is organized around the six current BCC competency domains.
Focuses on leadership identity, authority, responsibility, decision-making, relational impact, psychological safety, workplace behavior, and organizational life.
Coaching is contracted, documented, and delivered as a distinct non-therapy service. Clinical treatment needs are discussed and referred appropriately.
Where would you like to begin?
Choose the doorway that fits the work.
Psychotherapy is available to adults and relationship systems located in California. Executive coaching is a separate professional service. Consultation helps clarify fit, scope, format, and next steps.
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